People seem to find that the entire world is some show. We must thus adhere to this and put on some fass to hope that they approve of what we put out in front of them. You get this impression when you see women jumping from guy to guy; Their life is some kind of shipwreck and they're jumping from wreckage to wreckage until they reach dry land.
It's only began to dawn on me when I started work. People seem to think they really are the centre of some universe and we're surrounding them as if they're the nucleus of social interaction.
When a girl or boy is inadvertently dumped by their partners they claim that they let themselves go loose and wild because they're so hurt and messed up from the break up they need to make amends. This is utter horse shit. The fact is, they might have been left with a bit of a hole in their life, but by saying they're filling it with meaningless sex and gorging themselves seems a bit pretentious. The fact is, they've been trapped in this bond between two people and subconsciously, they've wanted to do it the whole time they've been together! Having been in this situation enough times that they could make some twisted rom-com from it all, not once have I had the impulse to fill the void with strangers. Using one person as some rebound might be another story; point is you're substituting that person for a lesser being. (Beggars can't be choosers, so to speak.)
Your insecurity should always be something that needs to come out the closet. It's what you need to send focus on so that then you don't try and make some mistake on people's judgement. Sometimes, learning not to care is the best way to resolving this issue. Insecurity creeps up on us at the best of times, and the point we all have to make is to try and tackle this head-on. And hard.
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